Domestic and family violence can take many forms. To assess your relationship, answer the following questions.
- change your behaviour or your appearance so your partner doesn’t get angry?
- avoid talking about money or other topics?
- feel scared, anxious or like you are ‘walking on eggshells’?
- cut yourself off from your friends or family?
Has or does your partner (or ex-partner):
- humiliate you, call you names or make fun of you or your body in a way that is designed to hurt or control you?
- threaten to ‘out’ your sexuality, gender (identity, expression or history) or intersex to your friends, family or work?
- threaten to 'out' your health status (ie, HIV status)?
- prevent you from attending LGBTIQ events or venues?
- have sudden outbursts of anger?
- act over-protective or become jealous for no reason?
- make it difficult, or prevent you, from seeing friends or family?
- control your money against your will?
- monitor, harass or stalk you through social media?
- threaten you with violence or hit you, kick you or throw things at you?
- slap, push or shove you, or otherwise physically intimidate or hurt you?
- physically or emotionally hurt your children or family members?
- harm, or threaten to harm, your pets?
- force you to engage in sexual acts that you don’t want to do?
- lock you in the house or make it difficult for you to leave?
- control your access to your medication (including hormones) or prevent you from taking your medication?
- monitor your text messages, email or phone calls?
- convince you to doubt your own judgement or memory of events?
- pressure you to act more or look more “male” or more “female”?
- insist that you must have medical treatment to appear more “male” or “female” or pressure you to conform to a particular gender stereotype?
- tell you that this is just the way LGBTIQ relationships are or that domestic violence doesn’t exist in LGBTIQ relationships?
- pressure you to have surgery to “normalise” your body, sex organs or physical appearance?