Do you:

  • change your behaviour or your appearance so your partner doesn’t get angry?
  • avoid talking about money or other topics?
  • feel scared, anxious or like you are ‘walking on eggshells’?
  • cut yourself off from your friends or family?

Has or does your partner (or ex-partner): 

  • humiliate you, call you names or make fun of you or your body in a way that is designed to hurt or control you?
  • threaten toout your sexuality, gender (identity, expression or history) or intersex to your friends, family or work?
  • threaten to 'out' your health status (ie, HIV status)?
  • prevent you from attending LGBTIQ events or venues?
  • have sudden outbursts of anger?
  • act over-protective or become jealous for no reason?
  • make it difficult, or prevent you, from seeing friends or family?
  • control your money against your will?
  • monitor, harass or stalk you through social media? 
  • threaten you with violence or hit you, kick you or throw things at you?
  • slap, push or shove you, or otherwise physically intimidate or hurt you? 
  • physically or emotionally hurt your children or family members?
  • harm, or threaten to harm, your pets?
  • force you to engage in sexual acts that you don’t want to do?
  • lock you in the house or make it difficult for you to leave?
  • control your access to your medication (including hormones) or prevent you from taking your medication?
  • monitor your text messages, email or phone calls?
  • convince you to doubt your own judgement or memory of events?
  • pressure you to act more or look more “male” or more “female”?
  • insist that you must have medical treatment to appear more “male” or “female” or pressure you to conform to a particular gender stereotype?
  • tell you that this is just the way LGBTIQ relationships are or that domestic violence doesn’t exist in LGBTIQ relationships?
  • pressure you to have surgery to “normalise” your body, sex organs or physical appearance?